You’re not going to want to hear this: 72 percent of women in long-term relationships fantasize about other men they know, finds recent Czech research.
To bring the spark back, suggest something daring and totally out of character, says Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., professor of sociology at the University of Washington and co-author of The Normal Bar . This content is created and maintained by a third party, and imported onto this page to help users provide their email addresses.
Do girlfriends fantasize about other men?
” It is natural for people to develop interest and fantasize about people other than their partners,” Rachel Perlstein, LCSW, relationship coach and co-founder of A Good First Date, tells Bustle. “When shared with a partner, this can even bring a couple closer together, especially if both are open with it.”
Is fantasizing about someone cheating?
Key points. Infidelity is usually defined as sexual contact with someone else. … Under this definition, fantasizing about someone else while making love to one’s partner could be considered “cheating.”
Why do people fantasize about other partners?
What these data tell us is that it’s simply part of our nature to be turned on by novelty, which is why most of us fantasize about people other than our partners and find ourselves gazing at attractive strangers from time to time.
Is it normal to sexually fantasize about your partner?
Fantasy is just that – a pleasant daydream with erotic potential. Nonetheless, many of us feel that it’s a betrayal of real life relationships, especially if it involves sex with someone other than our partner – and it often does for 98% of men and 80% of women, according to the Journal of Sex Research.
Unlike posts on the internet, it’s not because I feel inadequate about my own size/performance. I don’t imagine her having sex with an 8-incher or something.
O_oOne guy I dated actually got SO offended when I brought home a vibrator from my gf’s sex toy party with the intent to “liven things up” a little that he slept on the couch & refused to even come into the bedroom AT ALL because I might be playing with “that thing”. He wanted to hear about my past sexual experiences…
and that threw me for a loop.
He needed to be patient and make me feel like I could trust him with my “secrets”, help ME understand HIM so that I understood WHY he was asking this. I was raised by my Catholic grandma in a multi-generational career Marine Corps family…opening up, being “vulnerable”, letting down my “Gotta behave like a Lady” exterior…NOT in my comfort zone AT ALL! He explained the cuckold fantasy, I looked things up on the internet to try to understand the motivation behind it, I asked a lot of questions and set my own personal boundaries as to what I would and would not consider.
For instance…like you, he was not interested in the whole “humiliation” & such aspects of a lot of what you read about this fantasy…and that’s a very good thing. I‘m a strong & confident woman…that lifts people UP…I would never be okay with humiliating & degrading my man. lol Only if you have the emotional and psychological maturity to handle the reality as opposed to just fantasy, though.
Even then, even if your partner is OPEN to it…respecting individual boundaries and limitations…not just getting excited & jumping into it but putting each other and the relationship first. Understanding yourself & them, what it is and why…these things are important because it gives you great insight into how to maintain a healthy relationship & balance.
I fantasize about this a lot. Especially as she;s gone out with friends before Friday nights, male friends as well. My girlfriend is a very attractive 21 year old and a lot of guys check her out and flirt with her.